It’s the weirdest thing, living in a last. This is my last semester at The University of Alabama, and as I prepare to leave, I am also preparing to spend four months in China. Looking forward can be difficult. I fully believe it’s necessary to dream and be excited for the future; however, I want to savor these last few months in the south with these people.
I hope to learn to transition well, so I’m holding a few things at the forefront of my mind.
First, love means reaching out to people, even when this feels futile. It means going to lunch with the freshman I just met, even though our four months of overlap seem negligible. It means risking vulnerability with people I may never see again. It means drawing nearer to the people who are already dear to me, even though that makes saying goodbye even harder. I remind myself that some of the most impactful people my freshman year were friends who graduated that May. Putting time into people always makes a difference, I’m convinced.
I’m also trying to stay grounded where I am. I went to a yoga class (I know, wild right?) and the meditation aspect felt so grounding. Drawing my mind back to the now, to me, sitting in Tuscaloosa, Alabama, surrounded by people I treasure and places I’ve loved, means a lot. When I was a freshman, I remember walking across the Quad, feeling so grateful, and thinking, “I’m grateful, and I want to remember that when I am nostalgic, twenty years from now or whatever. I want to remember that I didn’t take it for granted.” Freshman year Cecilia was grateful. I hope to continue to cultivate that gratefulness every day.
Lastly, in preparation for transition, I am attempting to lay the groundwork for healthy communication. I’m learning about the different types of communication that works for different friends, and I’m attempting to cultivate an adeptness at those methods now. I don’t want my time in China to be monopolized by skype calls back to the US. So I’m learning what it looks like to email people, to send occasional notes, to pray for people so that those times when I do talk to them, I feel close already. I don’t think friendships can continue at equivalent levels with distance, but I do think they can be preserved and reignited with geographic proximity. We’re in the preservation game here, my friends, and all in an attempt to remain present.
Dude, also, it’s the extravagant that means a lot in a friendship. It’s the money saved so I can fly to visit college friends when I’m back from abroad or the random letter mailed for twelve whole dollars to wish someone happy birthday. Extravagant friendship should be sacrificial, and this takes wisdom and practice, but dang it’d be nice to get there, huh?
Lol, a journal entry from Cecilia. 🙂 I used to read blogs all the time, but now I have no idea what people write in these things. I’ve got nothing useful to contribute to the world, ya know? That’s okay, this is a semester of learning useful communication, and maybe it’s this blog…we’ll find out because we’re gonna practice.
xoxo, Cecilia